Q: how can i convince my wife for anal???

Well, you don't say whether you've brought the subject up with her before or not, but my number one piece of advice is this: Don't push it! Seriously, if you have mentioned the idea to her, and she wasn't open to it, bringing it up over and over again is just going to kill any chance you may have had in the first place.

Now, there are a whole bunch of reasons someone might be against the idea of having anal sex. They may have heard it hurts (which it can, if you're not careful). They think the idea of anal sex is dirty, and something only "perverts" do. They may have religiously-based beliefs against it. Or, they may just think it's unsanitary and/or gross. They may even have tried anal before, and had a bad experience with it. The problem here is that except for reason #1, the rest are really hard to argue with, because there's really no way to prove any of them wrong.

Now, if you haven't brought up the subject yet, or her reaction wasn't completely negative, here are some things you can try doing to warm her up to the idea:

• Use your finger while you're going down. (And yes, if you want her to give up the back door, I'd consider it damn near a requirement that you do some favors for her first. ;-) When you're going down on her, and she's getting really excited, you could try gently stroking or tickling her anus with a wet finger, and see how she reacts.
• Move up slowly. If she seems to like external stimulation, the next time you could try applying some gentle pressure, and eventually getting a little lube on your finger and inserting it a little way inside. If using your finger goes well, you could buy a small butt plug, or beginner anal toy, and using that with her. Once she gets used to the idea, suggesting anal intercourse will be easier …
• Don't push your luck. The really key thing to remember is that she may only ever be willing to go as far as your finger, or a toy … or she may never be comfortable with anal stimulation at all. So, don't push it. The last thing you want to do is push her to the point where she starts resenting it. If you already have a good sex life, you wouldn't want to ruin it trying to "score" something you're never going to get in the first place.

Q: I really enjoy my boyfriend, and we usually have a good time in bed. However, he's really *ahem* long, and I'm really not.

We've tried different positions to alleviate his being too long, but what would really help if there was a sex ring that we could put on his cock during sex to "take up some space" so he wouldn't have to concentrate on going to deep and hurting me.

Is there such a thing?
-Shorty

Not to worry, Shorty. :-) You can indeed get a stretchable cock ring, and have him wear it just around the base of his shaft (rather than around both penis and scrotum, like usual). If you pick out an extra wide cock ring, it should help "take up space" just fine … and if that ring doesn't do the trick, here's a 2 inch wide cock ring that might work even better.

Of course, depending on how hard he's thrusting it's possible that those rings, when stretched around him, won't be thick enough to stop penetration, so I was looking around for something thicker that could serve the same purpose. I found an adjustable cushion and strap set designed to be used with a penis enlargement gadget. Magnum Comfort Cushions look like they'd work perfectly! They're quite thick, and fit over an included adjustable strap.

Good luck, Shorty! :-)

Big Teaze's Tuyo is not a tease at all.

I wanted to review Big Teaze Toys' spherical Tuyo vibrator because it was strange. It's about the size of a baseball, so it's no good for penetration. There's no little nubs sticking out anywhere, so it can't do much for direct clitoral stimulation. How well would this pretty thing actually work? Surprisingly, it works quite well for me.

Appearance & Construction: Made of an elegant-looking combination of smooth plastic, silicone (for the center band and control button), and shiny stainless steel rings (which, as I discovered, actually help hold the thing together, rather than just being a pretty decoration), the Tuyo feels quite well-made when you hold it.

It's a lovely toy to look at, and it comes in a well made, satin-covered and lined box, with a hinged lid. Yet another toy you could leave sitting around, in or out of its box, without many people realizing what it was.

Function & Features: The Tuyo features three steady vibration patterns and five pulsation settings, powered by three AAA batteries. You cycle through the settings by repeatedly pushing the control button. Interestingly, the pulse patterns are more involved than a simple repeating "high/low" throb. One is so fast it's more of a stutter, one follows a couple low-intensity beats with a sudden strong buzz, and so on.

The vibrating motor is located in the bottom half of the sphere, opposite the control button, so the button is convenient to your index finger if you grip it around the silicone band with the rest of your hand. This is quite nice while experimenting with the different settings, looking for the one you like best.

Big Teaze describes this toy as "splash proof", and the instruction book specifies it shouldn't be submerged. I'm guessing it would probably be OK in the shower, but don't bring it to a hot tub party.

Technique & Conclusion: The shape is very comfortable to hold, and rolls nicely in circles without losing contact with any important spots (unlike smaller clit vibes), which is exactly what ended up working for me: Rolling it in circles at the highest steady-vibration setting.

The shape does inspire interesting possibilities: You and your partner might be able to nestle the ball in between you during sex, or you could squeeze it between your thighs while giving head, or even use it as a back massage tool… it definitely sparks the ol' creative thinking more than the usual "vibrating dick" style of toy. Also, if your partner isn't really comfortable bringing more conventional-looking toys into bed, the Tuyo might be abstract enough to convince them otherwise.

I am one of those women who just loves a Hitachi wand, so I'm all about the intense vibration thing. A lot of women find really strong vibes are just too much for them, and I think the Tuyo would really shine for that crowd! It also nestles quite nicely between your thighs, so another potential fan crowd might be women who like to lie on top of their vibes when they masturbate. But all in all, it's quite reasonably priced for such a well-made toy, and I think almost anyone could find an interesting way of enjoying one!